Unplanned Pregnancy Help and Advice
If you are pregnant, you may have a lot of conflicting thoughts running through your mind. You may feel nervous, excited, scared, brave, joyful, depressed, confused along with a long list of other emotions. Adoption STAR is here to educate you about all of your options, including help with parenting your child as well as creating an adoption plan.
An adoption plan is a thoughtful process done through love so your child can live the life you wish for him or her. Adoption STAR provides the option of open adoption, which will give you the opportunity to choose a family perfect for your child, visit your child and his/her family, receive photos and letters, and be a part of your child’s life, if you choose.
By making an adoption plan you will also be entitled to financial assistance with medical costs as well as possible assistance with rent, utilities, food, maternity clothes and other essentials.
Many women choose adoption. There is not one type of woman or one specific age or circumstance that is specific to someone making an adoption plan.
What is clear however is that those who choose adoption are of all ages, races, religions, and circumstances. Another commonality shared among all the women who make an adoption plan is that they genuinely want what is best for their baby and themselves.
Married and single women may find themselves with an un-timely pregnancy. During this time, those who have the ability and desire to even consider an adoption, exhibit a very special quality.
Women who choose adoption are not only unselfish, but they are also deep thinkers truly utilizing complex decision-making skills to decide what is best for their baby. They are not only providing the baby with the miracle of life, but also providing a family with the gift of parenthood.
Adoption STAR carefully screens all prospective adoptive parents before they are able to be considered for child placement. This screening process is known as an adoption home study and includes: clearances from state child abuse registries and criminal history checks, complete medical histories, financial disclosures, personal references, assessment and approval by a licensed social worker, mandatory adoption education, etc.
Adoption STAR knows there is no perfect parent but strives to identify parents who are exceptional. Exceptional parents take the time to explore, research, learn and thoughtfully consider… they believe in pre-adoption and post-adoption support and education. They are parents who truly can provide a child with the love and security they need to flourish.
Just like you, Adoption STAR wants parents who are loving, healthy, patient, flexible, etc., but in addition to these qualities, you may have a very real list of preferences that will assist you in selecting parents for your child. Share your preferences with your caseworker. Adoption STAR will provide you with an amazing choice of adoptive parents. You will have the opportunity to receive copies of adoptive parent profiles as well as the ability to consider prospective families who have placed their profile online.
We can honestly say that we have found that children who have been adopted do not have negative thoughts or feelings regarding their birth parents.
After hundreds and hundreds of adoptions, we can honestly say that we have found that children who have been adopted do not have negative thoughts or feelings regarding their birth parents. Adoption STAR also has adult adoptees as staff members and volunteers and is truly inspired by their positive adoption stories.
Your fear that your child will be upset with your decision is understandable, but often that fear comes from our own feelings of grief and loss. Saying goodbye is painful and difficult. Please know that you will always be your child’s birth mother and no adoption plan will ever change that.
There are so many adoptees, some are even celebrities today. Adoption is not odd or rare, but rather one way that a family is created by way of the gift which began with the child’s birth parents.
Adoptive parents share the child’s adoption story and birth family story with the child. The information provided to the child will be much of the information that you shared regarding your background, family, medical history, interests and hobbies, etc. Perhaps you have chosen to meet the adoptive parents or have a semi-open or open adoption and are able to provide information to the child yourself. This may be through the open adoption contact you chose or perhaps through a letter you wrote your child. One thing is certain, the adoptive parents will answer the child’s questions with sensitivity and with love and will explain how very difficult and unselfish your decision was. Whether or not you chose to be involved later in life, your child will be told that you cared so much for them that you put their needs ahead of your own.
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