How Do I Know I Am Making the Right Decision?
Our journey in life is often unexpected and the decisions we will be faced with are plenty and many will be challenging. Making the decision to place your baby for adoption may be the most difficult decision you ever make. It has been Adoption STAR’s experience that women who choose adoption have an incredible inner strength and in their hardships can find the positives that can come out of unexpected circumstances.
Allowing yourself to list the reasons you may be considering adoption will begin to help you. Your adoption counselor will be able to help you develop the list by getting to know you better.
Choosing to place a baby for adoption is a very difficult decision. There are often a number of factors that contribute to such an important and loving decision.
Below are some reasons why you may feel adoption may be in yours and your child’s best interest. For many women there typically more than one reason involved. Perhaps some of these reasons will connect with you.
- Parenting one or more children already
- Not emotionally prepared to parent
- Pregnancy was unexpected
- Unstable family situation
- Financial concerns
- Currently homeless or living in a shelter
- Lack of support from friends
- Lack of support from family
- Age ~ feel too young or too old to parent
- Not ready for another child
- Lifestyle is not appropriate for a child
- Physically unable to care for a child
- Want to make someone a parent by allowing them to adopt by baby
- Have a negative relationship with the birth father
- Circumstances surrounding conception
- No support from the birth father
- Marital problems
- Unknown birth father
- Want my child to have two parents
- Continuing educational plans
- Professional goals
- Don’t want parents / family to know of pregnancy / baby
- Baby is expected to be born with special needs
Whatever your reasons are for considering adoption, you are not alone. You understand that adoption is a way to provide your baby with the life you wish to give him or her at this time. Of course knowing that doesn’t always make the decision easier.
For some women, keeping a journal or a blog helps them to share their feelings about making an adoption plan. Some choose to write a letter to their child before birth or after birth sharing their reasons for choosing adoption. Listening to other birth mothers share their stories or by reading about other’s personal experiences may make you feel you are making the right decision for yourself and your baby. Finally, though emotional to do, but allowing yourself to connect with your heart and mind may help you make the right decision.